What’s this week’s dating question? Let’s dive straight in…
Question: I met "Amber" at a party, and we’ve been dating for five months. I never went to her house because she constantly told me that she had roommates who were jerks, and she didn’t want to involve me in the drama that went on. Well after all this time she admits that she was lying. She actually lives with her parents, and she has two kids with her ex. The thing is that I don’t like kids. Amber once asked me how I felt about kids and I openly told her that I didn’t want any, and that they generally annoyed me. So she absolutely knew my feelings, but continued this relationship.
Well after finding out she had kids it was like a double whammy. One, she has kids. And two, she’s lied to my face for five months straight. So I dumped her. Well now everyone’s turning against me. They say I’m horrible because she and I were so good together, and I won’t even give the kids a shot. I don’t see it this way. I don’t want to be with a liar. AND I DON’T WANT KIDS! Now Amber’s even turning my mom against me. Mom wants grand kids, so she’s fighting with me. I don’t think I’m the bad guy here, right?
Just want to add that I haven’t met her kids. So it’s not like I had a relationship with them at all. I may not like kids, but I wouldn’t want to hurt them like that either.
Answer: No. You were in the RIGHT..She deserved to be dumped. She lied for 5 mths. And why would you deny your children. GOOD JOB… You are not a bad guy. If you dont want kids thats your choice.
No, you aren’t the bad guy at all. In a way, what you did was kind of a jerk move, but of course some people don’t like kids and if that’s a deal-breaker, then it’s okay. She’s the one in the wrong for lying anyways.
Amber’s a bitch
you have done the right thing. she built the relationship upon a lie. plus why would you want to raise someone Else’s kids. if you ever have kids make your own.
You’re a bit of a jerk with the kids thing but you aren’t in the wrong. She should’ve told you straight away not after 5 months. If my ex had done that I would’ve dumped her and never talked to her again. That is a massive thing to keep from someone. Ignore them, this is her fault and only her fault. It doesn’t mater if you like kids or not she should’ve told you.
Youre SO not a bad guy! Who wants to take care of kids who arent theirs? At the end of the day, let people get over it because you have a life you need to live and just because she likes you doesnt mean you should be forced to take care of her kids. Shes the jerk for lying.